Unless you are very fortunate, you will most likely go through a number of relationships before finding your special someone. It's like a game of chance when it comes to finding your soul partner. You may have to play hundreds of hands in poker and blackjack before you obtain a winning hand, and the same is true in relationships.
Throughout your life, you will most likely encounter individuals who seem to be the one, or who appear to be near, but you will always have the sense that something is lacking. My suggestion is that if you are unhappy because something seems to be missing, it is likely that something is wrong.
I was in a relationship for almost ten years before I met my special someone, and everything was OK until I really considered getting married. Then I discovered we had very little in common and wanted very different things out of life, and one day we both recognized there was a lot about each of us that we both wanted from someone, but it wasn't us.
Then one day, I decided I'd had enough of trying to meet people at clubs and pubs. I was weary of looking for someone in the time it took me to complete a drink. The women I met always appeared to be the incorrect fit for me, or they were wonderful after just 5 minutes of chatting with them, but they seemed uninterested in me.
Then, one day, I had an idea; it wasn't a very novel one, but I decided to utilize the internet to attempt to locate the perfect person for me. As a result, I created a Myspace profile. On this website, I attempted to portray the real me, rather than the charming comedian seeking for love at a pub.
And, just like in the poker rooms, I went all in on this, pouring my heart and soul into it. I put out what I wanted and who I really believe I am rather than who I want to be, and I was rewarded with one email response to my website.
It was incredible; the reaction I received seemed surreal. Assume you're at a Las Vegas casino, playing poker. You're down to your last few bucks, so you go all in, and you're dealt a Royal Flush, and all of a sudden the sky is bluer, the grass is greener, and all of your problems appear to melt away.
Things were a bit uncomfortable at first for both of us. We agreed to postpone our meeting until we got to know one other better. We spoke on the internet every day for a month. You can really open yourself to someone and show them the real you without fear of rejection over the internet; after all, you are only a faceless ghost, and if things don't work out, you might be sitting next to her on the bus one day without realizing it.
The secret to obtaining happiness is accepting that you will bust more than you will win, but you must keep trying, remembering that you only need to discover the genuine thing once.