How to Act on a First Date

The secret to a great first date is to relax and be yourself. If you try to act in a way that you think the other person will like, they may start liking someone who you are not, and you will end up breaking up and getting hurt, so being honest truly is the best policy, and if you are just being yourself and it does not work out, you know they were not the one for you.

Dating is similar to gambling at poker; a solid bluff may win you a hand or two, but you will not win the World Series of Poker by bluffing, only by playing your best. This is similar to dating in that if you make stuff up to impress this individual, they will not like you but will like the false you, and they will ultimately realize the two are not the same.

Try to remember what you spoke about on the phone and see if you learnt anything that will help you pick where to go for your date, but if you don't know enough about them to know what they would enjoy, you may have to gamble and roll the dice and hope you don't crap out.

The most essential thing to remember on a first date is to have fun; the more you make of it, the more difficult it will be and the more likely you will make a jerk of yourself. If you are worried before the date, take a few deep breaths and if that does not help, I propose that you do what I like to do in casinos when my nerves are troubling me: have a drink. One drink of alcohol typically calms me down enough for me to concentrate.

The secret to a successful first date is simple:

Take her/him to a lovely location that is peaceful but not too quiet; you should be able to hear each other, but other diversions are also useful for those awkward moments.

Do not take her/him to a spot where your friends congregate; this may make her/him feel ganged up on, or they may feel out of place and hate you for making them feel that way.

It is critical to have the entire night planned out ahead of time and to have a backup plan just in case. The hard thing is making it appear as though it wasn't all planned. Let's say you decide to take her out to dinner, and then you want to go for a stroll on the beach. Don't just say, "Hey, after dinner, let's go for a walk on the beach." I would suggest waiting until after dinner to ask her if she wants to go for a walk to burn off some calories before taking her to the beach.

Then, when strolling on the beach, take her/his hand in yours; this creates a physical connection between you and makes it simpler later on when you go for your first kiss.

Remember that dating is like gambling; occasionally you'll receive a terrible hand, but if you play your cards properly, you'll meet the ideal person and win the jackpot.